5 aspects of achieving a Holistic, Healthy Relationship
How to create a loving, happy, healthy and equality-based Relationship?
Article by Dieter Luske N.D.-D.C.H.-D.M.H.-D.H
Holistic Relationship Principles
Everything on this planet and within our society somehow revolves around relationships; good ones, bad ones, not having one, seeking one, or even not wanting one.
When was the last time you read a fairy tale, and did it end in;” and they lived happily ever after”?
Was that a promise, a hope or a denial?
Can we deliver what fairy tales promise us?
Sounds like Utopia, doesn’t it, but not necessarily; I am sure humans are capable of having or creating lasting, loving and happy relationships.
Could Holistic Philosophies have some answers?
Possibly, maybe not, who knows. However, having a more holistic attitude may save the day.
Thinking holistically is all about expanding awareness. A Partnership is not just about survival and getting through those petty arguments; it’s about something far bigger and better. Concentrating on the larger picture may disperse the importance of the arguments.
For anyone being in or seeking a relationship, applying holistic thinking recognizes that one is only half of a partnership in quest of the other half. The phrase “my other half” is not just an empty phrase.
In the case of a holistic relationship, the whole package means 2 people are sharing their personal knowledge and acknowledgement to create one wholesome and incredible team.
We all know the usual relationship breakdown clichés, such as; nagging, constant arguments or fighting, accusing each other of any possible misbehaviour, point scoring, belittling and unfortunately, sometimes it escalates into violence.
Luckily, there are plenty of happy relationships; even so, happiness often seems to get unnoticed and is overshadowed by a society hooked on “drama”.
Applying some of the Holistic Philosophies could improve relationships and maybe even turn them into that elusive, living happily ever after the couple.
What are the 5 aspects of a Holistic Relationship?
If each person is one half of a relationship, for that team to work, each partner needs to be absolutely equal to the other.
No one would be more or less important. If anyone seeks to be the boss, the partnership will slowly disintegrate.
Having established equality and each person is aware and comfortable about it, one can move on; the first obstacle to a happy relationship has been overcome.
Next in line is acceptance of each other’s “reality”. Equality just stands for Value, not for being the same. We are all different, coming from different backgrounds with different personal realities. However, most arguments start with minor disagreements about something, quite often a conflict about who is right, which further develops into a typical point scoring exercise. Avoiding a lot of pointless arguments would improve relationships.
Thinking holistically, we would be aware that we all have and live in different realities. We live in realities we have been born into and which have been manifested in our minds over many years.
Partners obviously will have different perspectives on many subjects. Awareness of that will help couples to argue less, accept more, or at least have fun arguing.
We all have different perspectives, yet we still argue rather than discuss why we have differences. Getting to know one another helps create a unique relationship, always sharing and growing new perspectives.
After all, trying to be right only shows one’s insecurity.
In most instances, arguing is worthless and destructive, whereas sharing and discussing are constructive.
Not accepting the partner’s realities or insisting that your own reality is the only true one will lead to a breakdown in the relationship.
- COMMUNICATION and planning a holistic Lifestyle
Instead of arguing, try communication; it really works.
In a holistic relationship, great conversation surpasses most typical day-to-day topics. Honest communication is about the new holistic you, the couple and the new frontiers a couple likes to open up to. It is communication about life and lifestyle.
Most normal day-to-day communication is reactive to situations, such as not having enough money, job problems, what’s for dinner etc.; whereas holistic communication is about creating your reality and your desired lifestyle, and what each of you wants to achieve in addition to what you want to accomplish as a couple, by drawing on each other’s talents and knowledge.
What life do you want to live? What lifestyle would you like to adopt? What would you like to achieve as a couple?
And going even further, how can you support each other to fulfill each individual’s aspiration?
A holistic relationship is all about Synergy.
Synergy is when the sum of the individual parts is larger than the individual together.
Synergy is best expressed as equations;
In a mathematical equation, 1 plus 1 equals 2.
In a synergistic equation, 1 plus 1 equals 5, 7, or even more.
In a well-working relationship, you will be able to achieve things you wouldn’t have been able to accomplish by yourself.
This is possible because your partner may have said, “you make me complete”, to quote from a movie.
The opposite of Synergy is a bad relationship, which again can be expressed as an equation which is; 1 minus 1 equals 0, each partner fights the other, and in the end, nothing is left.
Work on your Synergy, beats arguing anytime.
- LOVE & TRUST
All of the above will not work without trust, and I just noticed that I haven’t even mentioned love, which I took for granted.
Someone has to start trusting; there is really no choice; by loving and supporting your partner, you add trust into the equation. Trust to work needs to be selfless, without constantly checking if you get an equal amount of trust, love and support back.
Unconditioned trust and love are always holistic, as it encompasses every aspect of one’s life.
This is probably not the end of the holistic relationship philosophy discussion; no doubt, many more articles will follow.
Article by …. Dieter Luske
Dieter Luske is the author of 3 books and has published hundreds of holistic lifestyle philosophy articles and lives by his motto. “By attempting the impossible – one is meaningfully occupied (D.L.).”.